sex educator teaching a lesson on vibrators

You’re ready to take your pleasure to the next level and encounter tantalizing vibration patterns in the bedroom.

But you aren’t sure what type of toy to get.

There are many types of vibrators out there, and I’ve made it my mission to help you find the perfect choice.

Whether you plan to use your toy for solo fun or during sex with your partner, a vibrator is an amazing addition to the bedroom.

The right toy can introduce entirely new sensations to your sexual repertoire. And for some women, it’s the only way they can achieve an orgasm.

So, if you’re ready to venture into the exciting world of vibrating sex toys, allow me to guide you along the way.


What to Consider When Choosing a Sex Toy

As with any other purchase, there are some specific factors you should keep in mind when buying a vibrator.

First, I’ll cover some of those considerations below, then we’ll get into the types of options you have.

Material

The material you’ll choose for your sex toy will influence the way you use it, clean it, and what type of lube it’s compatible with.

Silicone is my personal favorite material for vibrators.

It can withstand varying temperatures and won’t absorb fluids, chemicals, or bacteria, which makes it easier to clean.

But the best part?

Silicone has a pleasant, smooth feel to it that I’m certain you’ll love.

Just keep in mind that silicone sex toys are often incompatible with silicone lubricants, which can cause warping.

Price

You can find a sex toy for every budget, from basic dildos to luxury vibrators.

However, don’t opt for the cheapest of the cheap.

To get a toy made with quality materials that will last a while, you'll need to pay a bit of money.

I recommend that you spend at least $30 on your vibrator. This will ensure that it stands the test of time and provides you with quality fun.

Size

Next, you’ll want to consider what size sex toy you want.

Are you looking for something to stimulate just your clitoris?

If so, a smaller toy will be sufficient.

Or perhaps you’re all about deep penetration and need something shaped more like a penis. This is all about what gets you off.

If you’re going for a penetrative toy, consider the ideal length and girth before you make your selection.

A good way to find out what size is best is to think about the best sex you’ve ever had.

What size penis did the guy have? This is a good clue for what size vibrator you should pick.

And if you're not sure, or you're looking to try something new, the guides below will help you figure out which option is ideal for you right now.

Lube Compatibility

Using lubricant with your vibrator is always a good idea to reduce friction and enhance pleasure.

But always check to make sure that the lube you use is compatible with your toy.

Why does this matter?

Because using the wrong kind of lube with your toy can cause the materials to degrade.

Figuring out lube compatibility is simple: Just read the specifications of the vibrator before you buy it.

Cleanliness and Storage

Before you use your new vibrator, wash it so that you know it’s sterile.

Some women are more prone to vaginal infections than others, so it’s better to be safe than sorry with this.

After you use your toy, clean it off with gentle soap and water. You can also use a specially formulated sex toy cleaner for this job.

To keep your toy clean between uses, keep it in a drawstring bag or box. This will keep your vibrator free from dirt or lint, which can cause irritation.

Best Vibrator for Women in 2019

50 Shades of Grey vibratorIf you're wondering: Which vibrator should I buy, well it's this one!

Our favorite vibrator option overall is the Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator.

Rather than focusing solely on clitoral or internal stimulation, this unique toy hits both your spots at once.

The curved shaft stimulates your G-spot while the flexible rabbit ears caress your clitoris.

Made with silky-smooth silicone, this option comes with an impressive 36 different vibration combinations.

It’s waterproof, conveniently rechargeable via USB, and has 2 powerful motors included.

The Greedy Girl is quiet, which makes it suitable for discreet play. Just charge it for 120 minutes and you’ll get an hour of playtime.

Check out the full Fifty Shades vibrator review here.

The Bullet Vibrator

Bullet vibrators are small to medium in size and (as you probably guessed by the name) have a bullet shape to them.

They’re a good pick for people who want a portable toy to bring on the road.

Here’s the deal:

Bullet vibrators are very discreet, easy to use, and versatile. Use your bullet on its own against your clitoris or nipples for targeted stimulation.

Another option is using it during sex or together with a penetrative sex toy. While some work for internal use, others are just meant for outside use.

To find out what a particular bullet is meant for, check the instructions.

The Mantric Rechargeable Vibrator

Mantric Rechargeable Bullet VibratorThe Mantric Rechargeable Bullet is a soft and powerful vibrator that’s safe to use in water.

Made with smooth silicone, the curved shaft has a bulbous tip in a pointed shape for precise G-spot pleasure.

If you value versatility, you’ll like this option. The Mantric Bullet works for both internal and external stimulation and comes with 7 different pulses and speeds.

I recommend this option for women who enjoy both clitoral and internal stimulation from their sex toys.

Keep in mind that the vibrations can be a bit noisy if you’re in a very quiet room.

Read our more extensive guide on bullet vibrators for more information and other top picks.

The Clitoral Vibrator

sex educator presenting about clitoral vibrators

If you’re a private person who doesn’t want anyone to know you use a sex toy, you may want to consider a clitoral stimulator.

These options tend to have a discreet shape that doesn’t look like an obvious vibrator.

They’re designed for external use, usually with a curved shape that surrounds your clitoris for toe-curling pleasure.

Designed to be ergonomic and comfortable to hold for long periods of time, some clitoral vibrators work perfectly for hands-free use.

Another benefit of clitoral vibrators is how easy they are to use for clit stimulation during sex.

The We-Vibe Touch Clitoral Vibrator

We-Vibe Touch Rechargeable Clitoral VibratorOur favorite pick in this category of sex toys is the We-Vibe Touch Rechargeable Clitoral Vibrator.

This option is a travel-friendly product designed to target your clit with tantalizing sensations.

Made with non-porous, hypoallergenic silicone, the We-Vibe Touch has a discreet design and fits comfortably in your hand.

But my favorite part:

Its small size works perfectly for travel, so you can quickly relieve stress on work trips.

This toy comes with 8 different vibration patterns and speeds for you to test out. It has a quiet and powerful motor for discreet pleasure. And the shape of the product makes it convenient to use during foreplay or penetration.

The We-Vibe Touch is super simple, which makes it a great entry-level product for people who have never used a vibrator before.

Learn more about different product options in our clitoral vibrator guide.

The Rabbit Vibrator

sex educator presenting about rabbit vibrators

Most vibrators are formulated to either stimulate your clit or provide pleasurable penetration.

Rabbit vibrators, on the other hand, offer dual stimulation.

These fun sex toys have a vibrating or rotating dildo shape that you insert into your vagina, combined with a piece that vibrates against your clitoris.

In my humble opinion, rabbit vibrators are the best of the best.

You really haven’t experienced an orgasm until you’ve given one of these toys a spin.

The Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl Rabbit Vibrator

50 Shades of Grey vibratorOur favorite is definitely the Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl.

It’s easy to use, powerful, and will make you orgasm so fast that you might even be shocked.

This product is made with smooth silicone and a curved tip to hit your deep spot perfectly.

Use the circular control button to activate the vibration settings and choose from low, medium, or high.

The Greedy Girl is quiet and gives you the option to either use either the shaft or rabbit ears on their own or together.

Learn more about different rabbit vibrator options in our guide on the topic.

The G-Spot Vibrator

sex educator presenting about G-spot vibrators
A vibrator can be any sex toy that vibrates, where as a G-spot vibrator is designed specifically to hit your G-spot.

This type of toy usually has a bulb or curved shape designed to provide targeted pleasure.

There’s no rule that states that you can only use a G-spot vibrator for your G-spot, though.

Feel free to experiment and add clitoral stimulation to the mix, for even more fun.

The Lovehoney G-Kiss Fluttering Clitoral and G-Spot Stimulator

Lovehoney G-Kiss Fluttering Clitoral and G-Spot VibratorOur favorite vibrator for hitting the G-spot is the Lovehoney G-Kiss Fluttering Clitoral and G-Spot Stimulator.

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I consider this the best one because it not only hits your internal spot but stimulates your clitoris at the same time.

The G-Kiss toy comes with a variety of speeds, provides stimulation for many areas, and the bulb shape is perfect for hitting your G-spot.

It’s easy and comfortable to hold, so you can use it for many hours of solo playtime.

Keep in mind that this toy can be fairly noisy. So if you prefer discretion, you may want to select a quieter toy like the Greedy Girl Rabbit Vibrator I just mentioned.

Check out some of our other recommendations for G-spot vibrators here.

The Wand Massager

sex educator presenting about wand massagers

Wand massager vibrators are a great pick for people who want a high-powered pleasure experience.

Wand vibrators are intended to directly stimulate the clit and bring you to fast, intense orgasm.

This type of vibrator will come either with a cord or a rechargeable design. Corded options come with the benefit of a longer running time and tend to have stronger vibrations than rechargeable ones.

Rechargeable wand massagers can be more convenient, though, because you don’t have to worry about the cord getting in the way. You can use them in a car or even while camping.

One downside to rechargeable wands is that they can run out of juice in the middle of playtime, which is never any fun. Try to remember to keep it charged so you don’t run into this issue.

Make sure you check the instructions with the specific wand you’re using to see how long it needs to charge and how long the charge lasts.

The Doxy Wand Massager

person holding the Doxy Massage Wand VibratorOur favorite wand-style vibrator is the Doxy Wand Massager.

It has a long cord for easy maneuvering and comes with a variety of speed controls for personalized pleasure.

This toy has a smooth head which many women find more agreeable than textured wand heads. Keep in mind that with a high-powered motor comes loud vibrations.

So, if you prefer to be super discreet during playtime, you may want to choose a different type of sex toy or look for a quieter wand to use.

Read more about our top picks for wand massagers in our detailed guide.

Vibrating Panties

Vibrating panties are lingerie-style underwear with a vibrator inside.

The vibrator is typically a small bullet or egg-shaped toy that sits in a pocket against your sensitive areas.

Vibrating panties usually come with a remote control that you or your partner can operate.

Even if you already have a regular vibrator, a pair of vibrating underwear can be a great addition to your existing sex toy repertoire.

And the best part?

Vibrating panties offer discrete pleasure and tons of totally private fun for you, or you and your partner.

People tend to appreciate vibrating panties because they feel like a naughty secret. You can go about your day without anyone else knowing you’re wearing them.

The Ohmibod Club Vibe 2.Oh! Panties

Ohmibod Club Vibe 2 panties displayed on a manikinThe Ohmibod Club Vibe 2.Oh! Vibrating Panties are a sexy black thong that you can wear for discreet fun while you go about your day.

The vibrator is designed to hug your lips and stimulate your clit and can be controlled via remote control. The remote comes with 5 different vibration options and works up to 20 feet away.

There’s also an option to sync the vibrations with sound for nights out at the club. The vibrator works for up to 4 hours and takes rechargeable batteries.

For more vibrating panties options, read our full guide on the subject.

Anal Vibrators

As you may have guessed by the name, anal vibrators are vibrating toys that are designed to provide anal pleasure.

While they can work for both men and women, male-focused anal vibrators tend to be shaped to hit the prostate.

It’s possible to use other types of vibrators for anal fun, but I certainly don’t recommend it.

Using a regular vibrator can be quite risky as these items may get stuck in the anus.

Anal vibrators are designed with a handle or flared base that prevents the toy from being sucked into the rectum.

They also tend to have a slimmer body that’s gentler on the sensitive tissues in your anus.

The 10 Function Extra Quiet Posable Silicone Anal Beads

Silicone Anal BeadsMy top anal vibrator choice is the 10 Function Extra Quiet Anal Beads.

They have a rounded tip for smooth insertion and the shaft is bendable for targeted pleasure.

You can insert just one bead, or multiple, as you see fit. If you’re new to anal stimulation, I recommend starting out with just one and slowly working your way up.

The 10 Function Quiet Anal Beads have a variety of vibration speeds from a throbbing pulse to a gentle flutter. The single-press button makes them easy to operate.

Some people enjoy using anal beads in addition to vaginal sex for extra intense sensations.

As with any other anal toy, make sure you use plenty of lube with these beads. Since they’re made from silicone, a water-based lubricant is better than silicone lube.

Realistic Vibrators

Most vibrators and dildos are smooth silicone objects with a vaguely phallic shape.

Realistic vibrators, on the other hand, are designed to look and feel like the real deal.

There are a few different reasons why this type of vibrator could suit your wants.

You might be in a committed relationship and want to see what a different size or shaped penis feels like.

Or perhaps you live far away from your lover and want to have a masturbation experience that feels like genuine sex.

Others choose realistic dildos because they want their solo play to feel like real sex without the hassle of going out and finding someone to hook up with.

In any of these cases, a realistic dildo is the way to go. You get to choose the size, look, and shape of your lifelike vibrator.

But the best part?

They mimic the softness of penile skin and the firmness of a boner. Some options even have testicles and lifelike veins included!

The Lifelike Lover Classic Realistic Dildo 8-Inch Vibrator

Lifelike Lover Classic Realistic Dildo VibratorThe Lifelike Lover 8-Inch Vibrator is flexible, firm, and has a suction base for hands-free play.

But best of all:

It comes with 10 different vibration settings to experiment with. Mix up the vibrations and pulses for a wide variety of pleasurable sensations.

You can attach this life-like penis to a flat, hard surface (such as a mirror) for a realistic feeling sexual experience. It’s suitable for both masturbation and shared play.

You can read more about realistic vibrator options in our lifelike dildo guide.

The Remote Control Vibrator

Remote control vibrators are useful for a number of reasons, and are especially valuable to couples in long-distance relationships.

New remote control vibrator models come with an app that you can use to operate the toy. Using this feature, your partner can stimulate you from afar, whether you’re away at work or even in a different city.

But a remote control vibrator is also tons of fun to use when you’re in the same room as your partner or by yourself. Use one to give yourself hands-free orgasms while reading or watching erotic material.

The Lovense Nora Remote Control Vibrator

Lovense Nora product boxMy top remote control vibrator choice is the Lovense Nora.

This nifty tool can provide both G-spot and clitoral orgasms.

It also gives you the option to sync with your partner’s Lovense toy (if they have one). This feature makes it a great choice for long distance couples.

The shaft of the Lovense Nora gyrates against your G-spot for an intense feeling. And the toy syncs up with vocal commands and musical patterns.

This rabbit-style sex toy uses separate controls for the clitoral segment and shaft. It holds a charge for up to 4 hours, so you can enjoy long-lasting pleasure.

Note that the motor on this toy is a bit loud, so it may not be good for discreet playtime.

Look through some other related options in our remote control vibrator guide.

Choosing the Right Lubricant

An essential part of using your new vibrator is selecting a high-quality lubricant to enhance your experience.

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I personally recommend water-based lubricant to use with your vibrator, since it’s compatible with all sex toys.

Water-based lube can be used with masturbation, penetrative sex, and of course, adult toys. It also comes with the benefit of being compatible with condoms.

This type of lube is easy to clean off your clothes or bed sheets and won’t stain like other lubricant types might.

There are a few downsides to be aware of, however:

Water-based lubricants don’t last as long as silicone or oil-based types, and wash away easily in the shower.

Another factor to keep in mind is that if you’re using water-based lube for anal play, you should choose a thicker lube specifically meant for anal.

Alternatively, you can select an oil-based lube if you want to use your vibrator for anal play. Just remember that oil-based lubes aren’t compatible with condoms and can cause them to break.

In most cases, you must avoid silicone-based lubes with vibrators. Many vibrating toys are silicone-based and the combination can cause the toy to warp.

Lelo Personal Moisturizer Lubricant

Lelo Personal Moisturizer LubricantOne of our top picks for a water-based lube is the Lelo Personal Moisturizer Lubricant.

It’s safe to use with sex toys and condoms, plus has a silky texture that mimics vaginal juices for slippery pleasure.

This is a good choice for people who are sensitive to allergens as it’s made without parabens. It’s also fragrance-free.


So that's about it.

Hopefully my guide helped you find the perfect vibrator to enhance your pleasure!

Consider the links above if you need more information on a particular toy.

Enjoy!

Also, if you're new to sex toys, consider this guide: How to Use a Vibrator