You’re intrigued by the idea of a strapless strap-on dildo but aren’t sure which type is best for you. Or perhaps you’re curious about how these toys function and need some tips.

Either way, there’s a world of information out there waiting for you! And with the right knowledge, you may just transform your sex life.

But, like other sex toy categories, there’s a ton of options out there for the best strapless dildo to share with your partner.

First, you’ll need some key information for having the best strapless experience possible.

Then, I’ll make your shopping process much easier by narrowing down my top strapless strap-on dildo choices.

What is a Strapless Dildo?

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Strap-on design

Ordinary strap-on dildos come with a harness to keep the toy secured in place, while strapless options don’t (as you may have guessed).

Now:

Strap-on dildos are perfect for lesbians who enjoy more body contact while using a dildo with their partner.

But these toys aren’t only for lesbian couples!

They may also be used by women who want to switch roles with their male partner and penetrate him (pegging).

The design of these toys makes it so that you and your partner can have simultaneous penetration while staying close together.

Strapless design

One side of the toy looks like an ordinary dildo that you’ll use to penetrate your partner. On the other side is a bulb that goes inside of you.

Often shaped to stimulate the G-spot, you’ll clench your muscles around the bulb to keep it in place without straps. Many toys have ridges to stimulate your G-spot and clitoris while you penetrate your partner.

Just keep in mind:

A strapless dildo won’t stay in place as well as a traditional strap-on, especially if you use it for anal penetration.

But you can fix that by wearing one with an O-ring harness to hold it in place better.

Why Strapless?

There are a few different reasons why you may prefer to have no straps. They can get in the way and not everyone finds them sexy.

A strapless dildo, on the other hand, creates a more lifelike experience with less material between you and your partner.

Here are some more benefits to choosing a this type of toy:

  • Visual Stimulation: Many women find using these dildos visually stimulating because it looks more realistic (especially if you own a flesh-colored toy. Straps are very noticeable and can get in the way of fantasizing while you penetrate your partner.
  • A Safe Alternative: Maybe you’ve always been curious about adding another sexual body part to the bedroom but don’t want to bring another person into sex with your partner. If so, these are the perfect solution. It’s a risk-free way to have a penis whenever you want.
  • Less Interruption: When you’re in the heat of the moment with your girlfriend (or boyfriend), pausing to strap a toy to your body can be an annoying hassle. With these you’re more ready for spontaneous sex.

Lesbians know all too well that penetrating their girlfriend takes some planning and preparation. If you keep a strapless dildo in your nightstand drawer, however, you’ll always be ready.

Why Your Kegel Muscles Matter for Strapless Sex

Using these strapless toys is almost the same as using a strap-on, except that the toy will need to be held in place with your Kegel muscles (also called your vaginal muscles or orgasm muscles).

So, it’s a good idea to strengthen this area so you can grip the toy properly. Fortunately, it’s super easy to do Kegel exercises, and you only need to do them for about 10 minutes a day to notice results.

One of the benefits of using a strapless strap-on is that many are shaped in order to help strengthen your Kegel muscles.

Weight gain, aging, having a child, and pregnancy can all weaken Kegel muscles. So, strengthening this area is a great idea for the health of your body.

4 Ways to Get the Most Out of a Strapless Experience

In order to have a pleasurable experience, follow these guidelines:

Buy the Toy Together

There are many sex toys out there, so you can be more specific than ever about what type of pleasure you want.

Here’s the deal:

When you’re buying a toy that you’ll use with a partner (hopefully a lot!) it’s important to consider both of your needs.

You can assure that you pick the right choice for both of you if you pick out the toy together. While some may wish to have a vibrating strapless toy, others will want something simpler.

Some will want a realistic looking dildo, while others will prefer bright colors and a more general shape and look. Shopping for toys together can be a lot of fun and a good bonding experience for you and your lover.

Plus, this is a guaranteed way to end up with something you both like.

Use Great Lube

Some people believe that women don’t need to use lube since our vaginas naturally self-lubricate when we’re aroused. However, lubricant is an important aspect of playing with adult toys.

They create a protective barrier, preventing uncomfortable friction, and they make the experience feel much better.

Always make sure that the lubricant you use is compatible with your toy, or you could risk damaging it. I recommend water-based lube in most cases, although silicone-based options last longer.

Just remember that silicone lube can’t be used with silicone toys as it can cause warping.

Use it With Other Toys

clitoral vibratorThere’s no reason why you should limit yourself to one sex toy at a time. Clitoral vibrators are a great addition to strapless dildos.

They’re compact, easy to hold for long periods of time, and deliver tantalizing vibrations to your clitoris.

If you’re using them with your female partner (as a female), you can alternate or perhaps both use one at the same time!

Check out our guide on the best clitoral vibrators here.

Communicate Your Desires

Your partner can only give you what you want in bed if you’re open about it. Don’t forget to communicate about what you like instead of relying on your partner to guess what you enjoy.

Being straightforward can completely transform your intimacy with your partner.

The Best Strapless Strap-On Dildos

What toy is best for you will depend on what you’re looking for.

For this reason, I’ve included a variety of options below, each for a specific preference or quality.

Best Realistic Pick – The Tantus Realdoe Slim Silicone Dildo

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The Tantus Realdoe Slim Dildo is a vibrating toy with a realistic color and look.

Designed to have a more lifelike appearance than other toys, it has a 6-inch shaft which makes it approachable and not intimidating.

The material of the toy has a comfortable and flesh-like feel to it, which makes for a realer experience.

The firm silicone bulb allows you to hold the penetrating portion of the toy in place, which is more appropriate for spontaneous sex sessions than dealing with straps.

The toy has a slim design which also makes it approachable for anal penetration.

If you’re into the idea of pegging your male partner, just remember that the toy won’t be as easy to hold in place as a dildo with straps.

This toy comes with a small bullet vibrator for simultaneous stimulation with your partner. Keep in mind that the toy only has one vibration setting.

The ridges below the toy’s bulb provide additional sensation for the person “wearing” it. This toy should only be used with water-based lube to protect the material.

Pros:

  • Realistic look and feel.
  • Comes with vibrations.
  • Ridges for extra pleasure.

Cons:

  • Only one vibration speed.
  • Expensive.

Best Budget Pick - The Lovehoney Double Wow Dildo

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If you want to enjoy incredible simultaneous sensations with your partner, but you’re on a budget, look no further.

The Lovehoney Double Wow is a 7-inch dildo with a defined head and raised veins for realistic sensations.

The insertable bulb has ridges for extra pleasure against your G-spot and there are also raised bumps to stimulate your clitoris.

If you want a no-nonsense, straightforward toy at an affordable price, this option from Lovehoney is a good potential pick. You should use this toy with water-based lube for optimal results.

Pros:

  • Affordable price.
  • Straightforward design.
  • Waterproof.

Cons:

  • Doesn’t vibrate.

The Best Rechargeable Pick- The CalExotics Rechargeable Silicone Love Dildo

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This toy by CalExotics is a sturdy, rechargeable dildo that provides vibrations and pulsations.

It has a less realistic look, which makes it a good pick for lesbians who want to penetrate their partner but don’t want to think about a penis. However, others may consider this a con if they prefer real-looking dildos.

Made with body-safe silicone, this toy shouldn’t be used with silicone lube as that can cause warping.

Keep in mind that, although this is marketed as a strapless strap-on, it will be easier to control if you use it with a harness.

There’s a memory function that keeps track of the last vibration setting you had.

The toy comes with an auto off button and easy push button controls. You may charge it with a USB (it comes with a charging cord) by plugging it into your Mac or PC. You may also use an AC adaptor to charge the toy.

There are 30 different vibration, escalation, and pulsation functions provided by the dual motors. It takes 3 hours to charge.

Pros:

  • Affordable.
  • Rechargeable.
  • Quality material.
  • Many vibration and pulse settings.

Cons:

  • Doesn’t look realistic.

Best Adjustable Option - The Lovehoney Double Delight Adjustable Pink Vibrating Strapless Dildo

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For a more customizable strapless strap-on experience, you might consider this option from  Lovehoney.

This toy comes with a single-speed vibrating bullet that fits into the toy base. The clitoral stimulator delivers supreme sensations to your most sensitive area as you penetrate your lover.

It has a body-safe silicone design with dual-sculpted shafts for simultaneous pleasure with your lover. Use the toy with water-based lube to deliver smoother, more pleasurable experiences.

It comes with a simple, easy to use design. The shaft has an adjustable angle so you can customize it to suit a wide variety of sex positions.

The wearer uses a 4.5-inch shaft while the receiver takes a 6-inch shaft. One factor to consider with this toy is that it doesn’t look realistic. This can be a pro or a con depending on your preferences.

Pros:

  • Budget-friendly.
  • Cute pink color.
  • Adjustable.

Cons:

  • Doesn’t look realistic.

Strapless strap-on dildos are an easy way to create more body-to-body contact while you penetrate your partner. They’re ideal for people who want to penetrate someone without fussing around with straps.

Better than ordinary strap-on dildos for spontaneous and adventurous sex, these toys can be used by lesbian and heterosexual couples alike.

I hope this guide helped you understand the best way to use these toys and that you found the perfect one for you.


Jessica Winter
Jessica Winter

Hey I'm Jessica! Thanks so much for reading my work. I've been studying the Sex Therapy industry for years, and my absolute passion is helping men and women improve their sex lives! I really hope my work here is helpful, and I will continue to do my best at providing value for you!