Ready to move on to the next level of sexual adventure?

Are you looking for a new incredible way to give and receive pleasure?

Sure, you may have already created your own dildo and entered into the exciting world of butt plugs, but now you’re ready to take the next step with your partner.

I’m talking about strap-on harnesses!

Take Your Sex Life to the Next Level

Now, I know this is a topic people some people are quite nervous to talk about, and it’s a product that a lot of people are hesitant about getting.

But trust me, using a strap-on harness is one of the most awesome ways to take your sex life to the next level.

Not to mention experience sexual pleasure you never thought you would.

So, I bet you’re still a bit confused about the who, how, and why of these devices, and this is why I’m going to tell you all you need to know about them.

And after I answer all of your pressing questions, I’m going to tell you all about the only 3 harnesses you’ll need to consider buying.

In fact, I already know what your first question is…

Who am I and How do I Know All This Information?

Katie Barker from Sex Toy EducationWell, I’m a professionally trained nurse, and that means I’m more educated about how the anatomy works than the average man or woman.

I also am a woman who enjoys great orgasms, and I’m always looking for new heights of pleasure so I love testing out all the toys I can to help me get there.

So, bottom line, women, and men, of all walks of life, come to me with all their questions about sex and sex toys, and they love the tips and recommendations I give them.

And you will too.

The Common Questions You Might Be Wondering

When it comes to this specific product, there tends to be a few common questions.

I’m excited to answer these and I hope it clears up some of the confusion for you.

So let’s get started!

Who Can Use One of These Toys?

Anyone can use one!

It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman, gay or straight, big or small, old or young.

So, if it’s something you want to experiment with, go ahead!

Who Do I Use a These With?

You can use one with anyone!

You probably won’t even believe how many options you have.

You can simply masturbate alone while wearing your harness if you wish, you can penetrate a female either vaginally or anally, or a man anally.

You can even use them for oral sex.

And of course, you can be the one penetrated!

Why Would My Partner and I Use One?

There are many reasons for a couple to add these toys into their sex life.

As a female there’s a good chance you’ve always been at least a little curious about what it feels like for a man to have intercourse.

With this type of toy, you can become the penetrator and get a taste of it.

Maybe your partner, male or female, is curious about anal sex, and would like to try it with you. These devices make this totally possible.

Maybe your female partner is craving penetration, either vaginally or anally. Now you can give her what she wants.

These harnesses are also often worn by men who suffer from erectile difficulties but whose partners are still craving some penetration.

And once you own one, experiment with it a bit. You never know what kinds of uses and pleasure you can come up with!

What Does One Look Like?

black strap on harnessDifferent models and varieties all look a bit different, of course, but ultimately they are a harness you wear with a dildo attached to it.

The harnesses can sometimes resemble underwear, but most of them come with straps which you can adjust to your size.

Some allow you to use dildos you already own, while others come with dildos.

Does it Feel Strange to Wear One of These?

Honestly, it can feel a bit strange to wear one at first.

The best thing to do is wear it alone around your house for a while to get used to the feeling and sight of having it on.

Play with it a bit, see how it fits best, and get used to having a dildo at your disposal.

You’ll soon start to feel more comfortable wearing it and you’ll be able to confidently introduce it into play with your partner.

I also recommend you refer this Cosmopolitan article about how a variety of women felt when using one with their partners.

What Else do I Need to Know?

If you’ve read some of my other blog posts, it’s not going to surprise you that I’m going to tell you to use a good quality lubricant! See my top picks here.

Lubricant is absolutely non-negotiable if you will be using your harness for anal play, where lubricant is non-existent.

Of course, all of my recommendations below will be made from completely suitable materials, but if you decide to go rogue and not pick one from my list, please make sure the dildo portion is made from body-safe materials.

Silicone is the material most commonly used for dildos, but some are made with a thinner, less durable material, which will likely crack, break, and be a lot harder to clean.

You’ll also want to make sure the harness is adjustable, or that it fits you like a glove. You don’t want it to be sliding up or around during your sex play.

The last thing I want to mention is to go slow, especially if this is you or your partner’s first time being penetrated with this type of toy.

By now you should be feeling pretty excited about introducing one of these into your relationship, and you’re ready to start looking at some options.

As I said above, some are made with less quality materials, and others simply don’t fit well or are too difficult to use.

So, I’ve done the legwork for you!

Now let me tell you about the only 3 products you need to even consider putting into your shopping cart.

The Best Strap-On Harnesses and Dildos

1. BASICS Harness Kit With 2 Dildos

BASICS Strap-On Harness Kit with 2 DildosThis kit is fantastic for beginners, as well as anyone who has been using one for a while.

There are 2 sizes of dildos included in this kit which are both tapered nicely. The raised edges and nubs on both of them offer some pretty fantastic extra stimulation.

The harness included in this kit is adjustable and fits anyone from a size small to an extra, extra large.

Pros:

  • This kit is fantastic for anyone, no matter their level of experience.
  • This kit comes with 2 dildos so you have a choice of size.
  • It’s easy to change between the dildos using the included O rings.
  • The dildos are very comfortable and come with extra nubs for increased pleasure.
  • The harness is very adjustable and fits from a size S to an XXL.

Cons:

  • Some people wish the size difference between the dildos was a bit larger.

2. Lifelike Lover Realistic Pleasures Strap-On Dildo Kit

Lifelike Lover Realistic Pleasures Strap-On Dildo KitWow, is this kit ever incredible!

It comes with 3 dildos, all completely different in sizes, textures, and shapes, and all which come with suction cup bases so you can stick them to almost any surface, for solo play or other fun.

The 3 included dildos are a basic 6-inch slimline dildo, an 8-inch ultra-lifelike looking and feeling dildo, and an incredible vibrating dildo.

The harness is extremely comfortable, has a low back, and fits anyone from size small right up to an extra, extra large.

Pros:

  • The harness is lightweight and very comfortable to wear.
  • The harness fits anyone from size S to XXL nicely.
  • All 3 dildos are completely different and all offer unique pleasure.
  • One of the dildos vibrates for extra stimulation.
  • The dildos are all nicely interchangeable with included O rings.

Cons:

  • Some people find the battery pack attached to the vibrating dildo can get in the way.

3. Vac-U-Lock Dildo Starter Set

Vac-U-Lock Dildo Starter SetThis kit is a totally awesome value!

Not only does it contain everything, and I mean everything, you’ll ever need, it’s also a great price.

This kit comes with an adjustable harness to fit a large size range from small to extra, extra large, 3 very different dildos, and the O rings to go with them.

It also comes with suction cup plugs you can use to attach any of the dildos to firm surfaces, so you can play anywhere, or even solo.

This kit truly thinks of everything because it actually comes with toy cleaner, as well as special powders to prevent or relieve any potential chafing you may experience.

As if the 3 dildos the kit comes with wasn’t enough, the harness has an attachment so you can very likely use other dildos you already have.

Pros:

  • The 3 dildos come in a wide range of sizes.
  • The dildos are easily interchangeable with included O rings.
  • You can likely use other dildos you already own along with this harness.
  • The harness is adjustable from size S right up to an XXL.
  • This kit comes with a good quality compatible lubricant.
  • This kit comes with toy cleaner so you can easily keep it all clean.

Cons:

  • Some people find the harness straps are a bit hard to figure out at first.
  • Some people feel the dildos could have a bit more firmness to them.

And the Winner is?

You really can’t go wrong with any of these picks.

These ones truly are the 3 best around.

But I’ve been tasked with choosing a winner and that winner has to be the Lifelike Lover Realistic Pleasures Dildo Kit.

Not only does this kit contain a dildo which vibrates, but the sizes and shapes of the other dildos are beginner friendly, as well as totally enjoyable when used by more advanced users.

The harness is very comfortable and nicely adjustable. And the fact that the dildos have suction cups so you can play with them in other ways is a great bonus!

So, lube up, and have fun with your new strap-on harness!


Katie Barker
Katie Barker

Hi there, I'm Katie! I've been a nurse for the past 10 years and I absolutely love it. However, I'm equally passionate about helping women short through the maze of sex toys available right now. I hope my articles can help you find the products you're looking for while also making you a bit more comfortable about this topic.